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maisonmartinmargielous:

there is literally nothing a man who I am not attracted to in any shape or form can do to make me want him

I hate this idea that there are tips and tricks to getting women like the fact that you have to essentially deceive and disguise yourself in order for someone to like you is sf scary and weird to me

it also reinforces the idea that when a woman says no she means convince me or continue to try different things

like wtf that’s scary and violent thinking

I see this shit perpetuated in so many narratives within movies, television it’s scary af

and there are men who think this shit is normal that scares me

(via wretchedoftheearth)

Yes, false rape accusations happen. Run the protocol anyway. I’ve heard that perhaps the military has the highest number of ‘em. True or not, RUN THE PROTOCOL ANYWAY. Because in 15 years of investigating rape accusations, I can count those that panned out as false on one hand. Meanwhile, the one time I almost skipped the protocol, the one time I almost didn’t believe a petty officer, because I was naive as an investigator and a young woman, because her commanding officer described her as “a party girl, always late, always out drinking, don’t bother with this one”, she turned out to be the victim of one of the most brutal assaults I’ve ever investigated. She shouldn’t have still been -alive-, let alone up and making the accusation. So let me repeat: five false accounts in fifteen years. And one time I almost failed a woman ‘cause of the bullshit way it’s normal to talk about us. Take your shipmates’ word, and then run the protocol. Every. Single. Time.

 - JAG lawyer, speaking to my husband’s plant during Sexual Assault Prevention Month. (via circusbones)

(via lagertha-lodbrok)

ihaveabsolutelynoidea:

here’s the thing about sex, sexualization, rape culture and the phrase “sex sells”

sex does not sell. at all.

the objectification of women’s bodies is not sex. focusing on breasts or gentials or ass in order to sell a product or an idea is not the same thing as sex. it’s a process that turns people into objects, without agency, and therefor, not human. 

this is rape culture. it’s promoting the idea that women are not people, they are parts to be used and consumed. rape culture sells. 

ads that feature or focus on breasts or genitals or asses or legs or mouths without maintaining a human is sexualization. this is not the same thing as sex. 

sex is more than a body. sex is more than genitals. sex is a process. 

sex is a consensual act. rape is not. there is a difference. 

this why the consent panties and the save the boobies campaign are wrong. they do not focus on people, on lives, on safety, but on the idea that women only exist to be fucked. it focuses on our parts as sexual objects, not on our experiences. 

if you equate objectification with sex, keep your creepy ass indoors and as far away from other people as possible. 

and shrugging off the objectification of women’s bodies in order to sell something as simple “sex sells” is fucking gross.

(via wretchedoftheearth)

maymay:

“Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?”, Part 1 of 2. (link to Part 2)

Sources:

  1. College Men: Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,Lisak and Miller, 2002 [PDF, 12 pages]
  2. Navy Men: Lisak and Miller’s results were essentially duplicated in an even larger study (2,925 men): Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel, McWhorter, 2009 [PDF, 16 pages]

By dark-side-of-the-room, who writes:

These infogifs are provided RIGHTS-FREE for noncommercial purposes. Repost them anywhere. In fact, repost them EVERYWHERE. No need to credit. Link to the L&M study if possible.

Knowledge is a seed; sow it.

(via stfusexists)

If you think that the nice guy ranting only happens on the internet, you’ve never had to deal with your thoroughly drunken friend shouting about how no girls would go out with a nice guy like him, even though he’s surrounded by single women he ignores because they aren’t attractive enough for him.

If you think guys getting pissy and escalating matters because you told people to stop making sex jokes is a feature of the internet, well, you’ve never asked anyone to stop making jokes that make you uncomfortable.

If you think that inappropriate comments and requests for sex are an internet thing, you’ve never tried to stop a coworker or boss from hitting on you repeatedly, or a head of security, or the guy at the convenience store across the street.

If you think that being shouted at and asked to show people your tits just because you present as a woman only happens in chat rooms and online games, you’ve never walked past a frat house, or, unfortunately, through the main thoroughfares of either university I’ve attended.

If you think unasked for commentary on a woman’s looks only happens because girls post pictures on internet forums (which probably means they’re asking for it), you’ve never been at a bus stop, or the city square, or a mall, or… well, anywhere, really.

If you think insecure men trying to drive women out of activism only happens in online male-dominated communities, you’ve never paid attention politics. Or Fox. Or CNN, sadly.

If you think the reaction to rape victims is bad on twitter, try sharing that experience in person. Or try even standing up for a rape victim. Count how many minutes until someone points out “but men can be falsely accused! The woman just changed her mind! You just can’t believe those drunk *insert varying level of insulting reference to gender*!”

It’s Not Just the Internet. It Never Has Been.

(via loveyourrebellion)

(via stfufauxminists)

agender-queer:

cabronaenojada:

Consent is
I didn’t write this, but you all need to read this 

hey because it’s relevant. 

agender-queer:

cabronaenojada:

Consent is

I didn’t write this, but you all need to read this 

hey because it’s relevant. 

(Source: mamitachvla, via crimble-crumble)

micksoslick:

a-spider-is-just-a-land-octopus:

zoezoloft:

jazzyloid:

vriskaserkettt:

thesouffleegirl:

glovesinthesummertime:

pammywammyx33792:

Sheesh

The last one..

This is fucking sick.

if you still think rape is funny here let me just slit your throat open for you

oh my god

The bolded

the last one made me cry.

So not okay. :/

(via mellamancalle)

atrapforfools:

signifierofmalepower:

My picks from #safetytipsforladies on Twitter.

See, this is how you can do satire/be funny about a serious subject without making light of it or the people who suffer because of it. Thank you and goodnight.

(via thecuntmentality)

The refusal, especially among liberals, to believe that pornography has any real relationship to sexual violence is astonishing. Liberals have always believed in the value and importance of education. But when it comes to pornography, we are asked to believe that nothing pornographic, whether written or visual, has an educative effect on anyone. A recognition that pornography must teach something does not imply any inevitable conclusion: it does not per se countenance censorship. It does, however, demand that we pay some attention to the quality of life, to the content of pornography. And it especially demands that when sexual violence against women is epidemic, serious questions be asked about the function and value of material that advocates such violence and makes it synonymous with pleasure.

Andrea Dworkin, “Pornography’s Part in Sexual Violence” in The New Terrorism (via tabularasae)

(Source: shannonwest, via tabularasae)

Elizabeth Smart: Abstinence Education Teaches Rape Victims They’re Worthless, Dirty, And Filthy

fuckyeahsexeducation:

When I went through abstinence only education they did an activity where they put different activity from holding hands to intercourse around the room and asked everyone how far they would go, and how far their parents would be okay with them going. I refused to do the exercise because I thought it was inappropriate and my parents trusted me to be safe and make decisions for myself. Now that I look back on that I can’t imagine how traumatic that could have been to someone who had been sexually abused. We need to keep this in mind when discussing sex education.

(Source: progressivehumanity, via albinwonderland)

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